05  Oct
Getting Ready

We can see the progress, little by little, as we pass it every day on our way to school. The blue iron poles are attached to the red track rising high into the air. Cars on impossibly thin wires hang swaying gently in the breeze. They slowly rotate in a line from one end of the lot to the other. Huge flatbed tracks arrive bearing loads of parts and machinery, looking like giant tinker toys. The trucks will empty quickly, as unseen mechanics race to assemble the parts in time.

The parking lot will fill this week as the workers arrive. Carrying with them their own culture, they come in from small towns and big cities. This is harvest time for them and they are prepared to work (and play) hard. They seem faceless, but definitely have sound when they cajole the crowds to spend their money and win a prize. They bring their homes attached to cars and trucks; and when the work day is done, no one outside of this tightly knit community is allowed in.

By contrast are the people in the competition buildings. We dropped off a sewing entry for our aunt and stopped to observe the ladies come and go. All were flushed with enthusiasm, bearing carefully polished jars of canned goods or pressed clothing. Some were dollmakers, others knitters creating unbelievably lovely blankets and throws. The ladies are all ages and backgrounds but share a common respect for each other and their craft. This is a club where any are welcome.

The scent of the food will fill the air on Thursday, our mouths water in anticipation. It is a warm smell, somehow comforting, that drifts along the main roads for miles. Something that tastes this good couldn’t possibly be bad for you. When the food is brought home for later, the scent lingers in the car, reminding us of our day.

We began to watch for it last week and will continue to do so well after it’s over. This is part of the excitement. The State Fair is coming.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under City Doings. Date: October 5, 2007, 9:56 am | No Comments »

18  Sep
Autumn on the Way

Autumn is on the way, can you feel it?

The shimmering heat has given way to clear blue mornings, making it lovely to be outside. I have noticed that others feel the same way; the sidewalks in Five Points are busy with activity, and shopkeepers on Devine are blocking open their doors to catch the fresh air. All last spring and through the summer, our nieghborhood has been loud with the sounds of home construction and rennovation, as well as jackhammers and concrete trucks laying down new sidewalk, but the air  is calm now.

Because I am self employed, I don’t often allow for time in the morning to just sit and enjoy life. Work is always there, plentiful and waiting.Today was different.The Fresh Market sells fancy coffee that I love. Death By Chocolate is my year round favorite, but in the fall, only through October, they also sell Pumpkin Spice. It has a wonderful cinnamon flavor that I can’t get enough of. When fall appears, I always have fancy coffee ready.


This morning, I hustled the kids out of bed, through breakfast, and into the car. Before I left, I started the coffee brewing. Total trip time to and from school (not to mention flinging kids out to waiting teachers) is 25 min. By the time I walked back through the front door, I could smell that lovely aroma in the air. The dog was waiting for me, wagging her stub tail as hard as she could. She likes this time of day too.

I poured the coffee, opened up the house and checked email. Then, the dog and I went out to the screened porch at the front of the house and sat down; me to read the paper, she to pant and eye the squirrels. I idly watched mothers with jogging strollers, college students with bikes and backpacks, and trashpickers going through the cans at the curb looking for castaway treasures. The new sidewalks are gleaming, and contruction seems complete-our city street is as quiet as any in suburbia.

As for me and the dog? We were experiencing fall our own way. We just sat. I must do this more often…

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under City Doings. Date: September 18, 2007, 9:07 am | 1 Comment »

I am sorry that I can’t blog right now, but I am busy saying “goodbye” to summer.

Over Labor Day, we decided that we needed to find water. We were rewarded with a break from this gasping heat that all of us have been whining about discussing. If you haven’t been to Lake Murray, get there now while you still can-the water is wonderfull. One evening, after the boaters had gone in to dinner, the surface was like glass; offering me the opportunity to get up on a ski and pretend I was 20 again. Oh yes, I paid for it in muscle soreness for the next two days.

Goodbye, SummerThis was how we finished off the weekend before going home-totally played out.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Family Life. Date: September 7, 2007, 9:06 am | 1 Comment »

Every year at this time, during the first week of school, I get the same homework assignment. The teacher wants a description of my child to include interests, activities, challenges and learning goals; plus anything that would be helpful toward the education process. Essay or letter form is preferred. This always my job; the Food Guy says it was listed on the marriage license right before my signature. I have to do this for all three kids. 

This is an impossible task. Every year, it gets harder to summarize their individuality; especially since they are growing and changing so fast. 

Dear Teacher,

He likes science; particularly gross science. He is the kid who looked at his bowl of Tapioca dessert and said “It looks like frog spawn” right before he ate it.

Dear Teacher,

You won’t have to be hard on her; she does the job very well herself. If she explodes into tears over her work, it’s because it’s not perfect by her standards, not yours or mine. 

Dear Teacher,

Gold stars, happy faces, her work on display-these are all ok rewards. Hugs are better, and more important to her than cookies.

Dear Teacher,

He will drive you crazy looking out of the window, at the wall, into space-anywhere but at you. I promise, he is listening. Go ahead and quiz him, he can answer the question correctly. Feel free to call me and vent your frustration with this. I will be able to relate. 

Dear Teacher,

Right now she finds it enchanting to write her letters as tiny as possible. I will be happy to donate either a high quality magnifying glass to the classroom, or else arrange a gift certificate to Lens Crafters for Teacher Appreciation week. 

Dear Teacher,

Her favorite subject in school is Art. This is also her favorite thing to do at home. Please excuse the paint/marker/clay/unknown medium rimming her fingernails. I promise, we clean her on a daily basis. 

Dear Teacher,

Like her number fives, she is frequently turned around backwards-in her chair, in line, on the playground, standing in place. We are hoping that this is a phase and will be passing soon; now that it has been two years. 

Dear Teacher,

I know that many mothers say this, but I am not one of them. My children actually are, each of them, uncommonly brilliant. I am not biased in the least. 

Dear Teacher,

He is eager to be in your class this year.

She is eager to be in your class this year.

She is eager to be in your class this year.  Please love them and help them grow. 

Dear Teacher,

Thank you.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Momming, Uncategorized. Date: August 27, 2007, 11:05 am | 1 Comment »

31  Jul

I want to know the real reason behind why men need so many tools.

Just about every man I know has a selection of rusty tools and related items in the truck of his car. This also includes a full color assortment of bungee cords in case something needs to be secured. I understand the rationale for jumper cables, and even one bungee to hold the trunk closed over the Christmas tree, but the rest I don’t get.

This phenomenon filters into the house as well. In the corner of our mud room, there hangs a caulking gun (such a silly name). It’s not really a gun-not even in the broadest sense of the word. However, no man on the face of the earth is going to walk into a hardware store and ask for a caulking squirter-so there you go. Anyway, it hangs there in the event of a caulk emergency. We have been in the house for over three years and haven’t experienced one of these yet, but should it occur, we are ready at a moments notice.

Also in the mud room, there is a variety of screwdrivers, paint brushes and related tools, a drill with bits, and spackle (in case holes suddenly appear somewhere). I continuously add to this collection. In every load of laundry that contains his pants, I find a selection of nuts, bolts and screws. I place all of these items into a jar that is rapidly getting full. I figure that in five years, I will be able to operate an EBay site for these products right out of my home. My son has begun to add to this collection; in addition to regraveling our driveway with a lovely assortment of stones from his pockets. The guy thing starts young.

The workshop/shed/detached garage/eyesore is loaded with tools. This is mainly because these are an easy gift giving idea-especially for the “impossible to buy for” man. I spend a lot of time at Northern Tool at Christmas and manage to check off grandpa, husband, and brother in law all in one stop. However, I believe the tools are reproducing in the dark. The tools are starting to take over the shed, and I really don’t remember buying this many.

EBay may be sooner than I think; I wonder if he would notice?

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Uncategorized. Date: July 31, 2007, 9:01 pm | No Comments »

I certainly don’t have Suncom cell phone minutes, but I do find myself pondering deep, philosophical questions-often when I am trying to fall asleep at night. If you have any answers to these questions, please feel free to leave them in the comments section so you can put me out of my misery.

Why is it that cookbooks are absolutely inspirational to read, but cooking dinner is a drag?

Why do health food stores smell funny? Am I unable to recognize the true scent of health?

Why is it that kids can be rotten all day long, making you want to snatch a knot in them; then look like angels while they are sleeping, making you want to hold them in your arms?

Why is it that the train is never sitting on the tracks across the road when you are early?

Why is it that when the dishwasher is completely empty and standing open, somebody always put the cup in the sink?

Why is it that Krispy Kreme has their “hot doughnuts” sign on whenever I am broke and dieting?

Why does it not shame me to put five dollars worth of hot doughnuts on my credit card?

Why doesn’t the color of the new paint on the wall look like the color in the picture?

Why does the dog need to bark at dust floating in the air, but will only snore when a stranger comes to the door?

Why do these people keep calling to offer a better phone plan? Why don’t they just do the right thing in the first place?

Why do I keep buying celery so that it can die in my refrigerator instead of the grocer’s shelf?

Why is it always in the hundreds instead of tens when the car has a problem that needs professional help?Why does the car only have a problem when I REALLY need to be somewhere?

Why is it that a husband always wants to have meaningful conversation when the wife is concentrating on a book or the computer, but will barely answer in monosyllables when the TV is on?

Why is it always so cold in the movie theater?

Why is it cheaper to throw away an electronic gadget and buy new, rather than have it fixed?

Why can’t you ever find someone to fix these gadgets?

Why do they all break at once?

Why don’t Hershey bars taste good anymore?

Why is it impossible to keep your eyes open at four in the afternoon, yet at nine you get your second wind until midnight? 

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Swirling Thoughts. Date: July 26, 2007, 11:22 am | No Comments »

18  Jul
Role Change

Our marriage is about to go through a huge change. The restaurant guy has a new job; one with daytime hours only, Monday through Friday. No holidays. No late nights. I will have to start calling him the food guy. 

We got married in 1994, after dating for two years. In that entire time, he has never had a job that allowed him to be home on the weekend. He has worked every mother’s day, Valentines, and many Christmas eves. For the first five years, I worked straight evenings and nights, initially 16 hour shifts, then 12. It’s amazing that the relationship has lasted this long, although we have definitely had our shaky moments. 

This will be a huge change, and probably a challenge for us. I can hardly wait.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Family Life. Date: July 18, 2007, 10:00 am | No Comments »

04  Jun
Lost in Old Books

Whenever I find myself on the other side of the Gervais Street bridge with a little extra time on my hands, I stop for a quick peruse at Ed’s Editions on Meeting Street. It’s one of my favorite used bookstores, and I love to get lost there. I know that some authors wish these didn’t exist because they don’t receive royalties on resales, but I am glad they are around. This is where I can find old, new favorites. 

Whenever I go, it’s always the same routine for me. Park on the side, walk up the little brick pathway, and look into the secret garden behind the iron and brick fence. In this small, walled in space, there is an empty swimming pool, and a really cool looking tree house. If you could climb up into it, you could get a great view of the city from the back. My children and I have wondered forever who this garden was created for; it seems so out of place behind this row of small businesses. Even if the building used to be housing, it seems hardly worth the expense to attract so few renters. And who would own a house on such a busy, commercial corner-even before it was well developed? It’s a mystery, but we have never asked anyone for the story; it’s more interesting to guess. 

When I walk in the door, I can hear the jingle of an old fashioned bell. I always step into the small vestibule, and pause to inhale the smell of old books. Libraries with their modern cleaning crews never smell that good. The floor is a little creaky, but quietly so. There is always someone working at the counter, and usually at least one customer reading in an armchair or catching up on gossip. I head straight to the best sections, always starting with children’s literature to check for old favorites in hardbound. These are for me, not necessarily my kids. 

I like it because I can take my time to look. The shop is fairly well organized which the peace of organized browsing. I don’t mind hunting and searching, but I will spend more time in a variety of sections if there is order.

Sometimes I make a purchase, sometimes not. With our extensive collection, I have to buy cautiously or else purge some of the volumes on my overloaded shelves. If I want, I can have the dust jackets wrapped neatly in protective covers for a small fee-a very nice service. I keep intending to bring in the worn covers that I already own for a refurbish. 

When I am finished, I am usually a little late for wherever I am headed next; it’s hard to break away. Still, I always pause at the iron gate one last time. I would love to climb into that tree house to see the view for myself.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under City Doings. Date: June 4, 2007, 11:14 pm | No Comments »

15  May
Unemployment

One week ago, I received a phone call from the restaurant guy. I was driving back from a conference, where I had been a speaker. I was feeling great; my sessions went well and I had time to spend with my sister-always big fun. I saw that he was calling from work, so I figured he was making sure I was on the way, and that everything was ok. He’s good like that.

 

“I am not going to have a job tomorrow”.

 

For one wild moment, I had the crazy thought that something really horrendous had happened. He is not an impulsive fellow, and even though he wasn’t happy at his job, he wouldn’t just quit. Somebody must have done something really bad.

 

He went on to tell me that 50 restaurants in the chain were closing and that his was one of them. As I listened to the details, I got excited. He seemed a little surprised when I told him this. However, in my opinion, this was a great opportunity. He could look for new employment (while getting paid) and have some down time at home. He is a real fix-it, build-it kind of guy, but never has the time or energy for projects.

 

After the initial flurry involved in a full shut down, the dust started to settle. He is now working on back yard project involving lots of sawing and hammering, in between talking to headhunters. It’s interesting, initially he was just supposed to fix up and repair, but finds it impossible to function that way. He has to rip out or tear down everything wrong and start fresh. I have enjoyed watching him work on this project with his usual careful precision; mostly because I am not made that way. It’s also been very nice to have him around. His work hours have been late and endless for so long, that I forgot what having him home on a regular basis was like.

 

This will come to an end soon. We can’t afford to live on one parttime salary, and severance only lasts so long. However, this break stops the endless daily treadmill and allows him to weigh his options; as well as to determine what is of value to him.

 

Many of us are descendents from people who had it rough, and were determined to improve their lot in life as a result. Often our forbearers include Eastern Europeans going through pogroms, Irish experiencing the Famine, slaves, or persecuted Jews. Somehow through the generations, many of us have inherited the drive to constantly strive and improve, earn more, gain more. We forget to stop and look around, and enjoy what we have, as well as each other.

 

Unemployment is allowing us to do that. It is a gift.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Swirling Thoughts. Date: May 15, 2007, 9:09 am | No Comments »

07  May
All Moved In…

So at last, the boxes are (figuratively) unpacked and we are all moved in. Those of us that wanted to move over to The State from The Record and been through the upload process and now find ourselves in a new environment.

It’s very big and pretty. Lots of space and large fonts for those of us who are visually impaired. Best yet, it only took me three attempts to log in-a vast impovement over the old site where I found my self going back to the home page in enough circles to make me dizzy.

However, there are lots of fancy buttons and options here. Places where people can subscribe, I can add special effects, or who knows what else. I will probably have to read directions somewhere which is never a good idea; at least in my mind. And, the comments from you didn’t make it over from the old site; making it seem a little quiet in here.

Just wanted to let you know I was back. Make some noise or something.

Posted by Denise Altman, filed under Swirling Thoughts. Date: May 7, 2007, 9:01 pm | No Comments »

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